Accepting Grace


Let us come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace in time of need (Heb 4:16)

So I lied to someone sometime back just to make myself look good in front of the person mostly because I was not proud of the truth at the time. Then got convicted in my heart and asked God for forgiveness but for some reason, I didn’t want to accept the fact that I was forgiven (even though the person already knew the truth). I went that whole day not feeling good about myself, telling myself I deserved to be punished and can’t be forgiven just like that because I knew better than to lie (being a serious Christian) at the time.

Later in the evening that day, I went for a prayer meeting at church still feeling very bad and at some point we were told to let people know what God had laid in our hearts about them and I said God wouldn’t talk through someone like me and didn’t open up to hear him speak so was just sitting. Then someone came to me and whispered mercy! And I broke down right there knowing that could only be through God’s inspiration. He (God) had been trying to let me know all day, that it’s okay that I’m forgiven but I wouldn’t accept it.

However He helped me to understand that that’s where grace comes in. Letting me know that we are not saved by our works/good deeds but by the fact that God decides to show us unmerited love regardless of how good or bad we have been. Sometimes we set standards that we can’t really keep up with so as to feel that we deserve God’s love to us. Truth is we are not really able to reach that point where we are fully deserving of God’s graciousness and mercy because that’s life as we know it. So we might as well accept his grace, allowing it to guide us through each passing day because on our own, we cant really do much…




Love is not jealous (1 Corinthians 13:4)

Remember we are talking about loving yourself  first  so you will be able to apply it to loving others. When I was learning about these series and I reached Jealousy, I asked God, now I can’t be Jealous of myself now can I?  and God said yes but jealousy can result to self hatred (opp. Of Loving yourself). So I asked how? and God helped me to understand that;

 When you’re resentful of someone’s advantages  you do not allow yourself to benefit however possible from this person’s advantages. This could be through learning how the person came about their success or even sharing in the success if the person is close to you. With you having bitterness against someone in your mind can also be looked at as denying yourself of total happiness and peace of mind if we are being honest; and this is not loving yourself. I had to learn to the get to the point where I would tell myself that I love me too much to allow me get bitter or sad over someone’s blessings. Like it or not we all need happiness and peace in our hearts and if we don’t have that, it affects you first before anyone around you. So today I urge you love yourself and be happy with who you are and where you are in life.  God made everyone uniquely and has unique purposes for everyone you inclusive! just trust God and remember that ALL things work together for the good of them that love God.



Love is Kind (1 Corinthians 13:4)

Love is kind therefore if I have love in me I should be kind to others; emm very true but the question is, am I kind to myself?

So I’m a gym kind of person I try to work out as much as I can get myself to despite the fact that I can be quite lazy lol but sometimes I work out so hard then maybe one time during the week I end up eating all the wrong foods which ends up making me feel like I’ve wasted all that time in the gym and to compensate I end up starving myself which itself also has a bad result anyway my point is I was not being kind to myself and my body depriving myself of good health and I needed to understand that in being patient with myself, I also have to be kind to myself, encouraging myself with the word of God acknowledging that I did not make myself but God made me because sometimes there won’t be anyone around to encourage you so you have to learn to do it yourself.

So many of us fall short in different ways but instead of torturing ourselves, we should pick ourselves up acknowledging that there’s a forgiving father willing to accept you once you ask for forgiveness and being kind to yourself means accepting his loving help! Remember it takes being kind to yourself accepting God’s helping  hand that you’d be able to be in more a position of being kind to others because you understand how it feels both ways…

(Love is not jealous ; continued in Love series “4”)


loveSome, if not most of us have heard the saying “ Love thy neighbour as yourself” some may read this and think here we go, another person trying to tell how to treat other people nicely and be selfless, and so on… well im sure you’d be pleased  to know that I’m not going that route today…instead let’s talk about you, me, us for a minute.

That quote is from the bible and I want to capitalise on the fact that it says you should love others as your YOURSELF. You see most of my life (not like I’ve lived dt long lol) I’ve been taught about how to love people because that’s what God wants and yeah sure enough that’s true but on very few occasions have I been taught to love myself and know that I can’t give what I don’t have.

(1 Corinthians 13 NLT) Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance etc.

Now first question I’d urge you to ask yourself, is are you patient with yourself?  Are you kind to yourself? Have you forgiven yourself? With the rest of the characteristic put in context to yourself and be honest with yourself….

We’d continue on the love series I’m going to give my own answers to those questions with different scenarios in my life; stay blessed 🙂